Preferred gender pronoun facts for kids

A set of four badges, which people might wear to show their pronouns.

Preferred gender pronouns (often called PGP) are the words people like others to use when talking about them. These words, like "he," "she," or "they," help show a person's gender identity. In English, when someone shares their pronouns, they often say the words used for a person and an object, like "he/him" or "she/her." Sometimes, they might also include the word for belonging, like "she/her/hers." Some people use newer pronouns, called neopronouns, such as "ze/zir."

Why Pronouns Matter

Using preferred pronouns is important for making everyone feel welcome and respected. It helps create a fair and friendly space for all, especially for transgender and non-binary people.

Understanding Gender Identity

• Gender identity is how a person feels inside about their own gender. It's about knowing if you are a boy, a girl, both, neither, or something else.
• It's different from the gender someone was thought to be when they were born.
• When we use someone's correct pronouns, we show that we respect their identity.

Who Uses Preferred Pronouns?

• Many people share their pronouns, not just transgender or non-binary people.
• For example, a boy might say "my pronouns are he/him." A girl might say "my pronouns are she/her."
• This helps everyone know how to refer to each other correctly. It also normalizes sharing pronouns, making it easier for those whose pronouns might not be obvious.

How Pronouns Help Everyone

• Using someone's preferred pronouns shows kindness and understanding.
• It helps people feel seen and valued for who they are.
• Teachers, doctors, and social workers agree that using correct pronouns is a good and ethical thing to do. It helps build trust and makes spaces safer for everyone.

Common English Pronouns

• He/Him/His: Used for someone who identifies as a boy or man.
• She/Her/Hers: Used for someone who identifies as a girl or woman.
• They/Them/Theirs: Used by many people, including those who identify as non-binary. It can also be used when you don't know someone's pronouns.

What Are Neopronouns?

• Neopronouns are newer pronouns that some people use.
• They offer more ways for people to express their gender identity.
• Examples include "ze/zir/zirs" or "xe/xem/xyr."
• Just like "he" or "she," using neopronouns correctly shows respect.

How to Use Preferred Pronouns

• Just ask: If you're not sure what pronouns someone uses, it's okay to politely ask, "What pronouns do you use?" or "What are your preferred pronouns?"
• Listen and learn: When someone tells you their pronouns, try your best to remember and use them.
• Practice makes perfect: It might take a little practice, especially if you're used to guessing pronouns. If you make a mistake, simply correct yourself and move on. For example, "Oh, sorry, they went to the store, not he."